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The blog I refer to in this video is here: How to make life easier when you stop drinking 

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Video Transcript:

Hi everyone!

I hope you're all well today. Today I'm talking to you about the importance of the language that we choose to use when we’re describing what it's like to stop drinking.

I posted something on my Facebook page the other day that showed a picture of the skies clearing. There were some clouds in the distance and the sun was coming through and it looked like the clouds were literally parting and this beautiful golden sunlight was coming through and shining down on me. 

And for me, that was a really good symbolic representation of what it's like to stop drinking. It's like a whole new lease of life. And I posted something like “stopping drinking is like the skies are clearing” because that's how it felt for me.

One of the comments that somebody posted below that said something like “stopping drinking is only half the battle. The hard work is yet to come.” And I want to talk for a minute about the use of language there - so, words like “battle”, words like “struggle”, words or phrases like “hard work”.

Now, the reason that I'm focusing on language is because it's vitally important. Your brain does so much processing that you're unaware of - all of the time your brain is processing information, storing information, remembering information, creating new neural pathways, firing off new connections, and building a reality and a belief system based on the language that you're using. 

Around 90% of the brain's processing is done at an unconscious level. In other words, you're completely unaware of most of what's going on in your brain at any one time. And, one of the things that the brain is doing is it's taking on board the language that you're using to frame or shape its belief system and its reality. In other words, if you're using words like “battle”, “hard work”, “daily struggle” to describe the stopping drinking experience, your brain will create a reality out of those words. It will choose to believe those words and kind of unconsciously incorporate those words and all the beliefs associated with them into your lived reality. So, your lived reality around stopping drinking will become hard work, a struggle and like a battle.

Now, it's really important when we’re  thinking about stopping drinking, to think about it realistically - just like learning any kind of new skill. Obviously, when you stop drinking, if drinking has become an embedded habit for you, you're learning how to navigate life sober. And this is a new skill. Just like learning to dance, learning a new language, learning a musical instrument or a sport, there is obviously going to be some concentration, some focus, some energy and some commitment required to learn this new skill. But, even though all of that is true and there is some commitment, concentration, energy and focus involved and required, you can still use language about the experience that’s more positive and more likely to breed a successful, positive and motivating experience.

I don't know if you’ve had a chance to read my blog - hold on - just let me stop the dog from barking: “Jack! Come! Sorry, it's going to be distracting if he's barking in the background. Just let me get him over here where I can safely stroke him into a nice, peaceful calm state. Good boy.” Um… So yes, we can use realistic words like we're going to have to work, we're going to have to concentrate and we're going to have to commit. But we can also choose words like “this is going to be joyous, it's going to be liberating, it's going to be empowering - I'm going to get to be the best version of myself.”

So,  just like any new skill or anything new that you have to learn, you do need to put some effort in. But you can also frame the whole picture or the story that you tell yourself about stopping drinking really positively, so it becomes a positive experience for you. 

I don't know if you have managed to read my blog… now, what have I titled it? I think I've titled it: “What story are you telling yourself?” I'll put a link below the video to that blog, but it's all about how you frame the picture you're painting, how you describe the story, how you tell the story, is going to have an impact on how you experience your lived reality. So, paying attention to the language you're using when you're thinking about your stopping drinking experience or when you're thinking about your future sober lifestyle, is really important. 

The more positive the language you choose, the more likely you are to succeed.

I’ll look forward to catching up with you next time and, in the meantime, let's go get sober together!

IF...

If you want some support to stop drinking and stay successfully sober...
If you want to feel motivated and positive about your alcohol-free life...
If you want to enjoy and feel liberated by sober-living...

AND to do all of this happily and healthily...

sign up for a Guidance Membership and get access to all the amazing resources Go Get Sober has to help you succeed.

Stop drinking. Stay stopped. Be free.

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