So, you’ve decided you want to stop drinking. Or, you’ve recently stopped drinking and want to stay sober. You’ve developed an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and, although it scares you, you know, at some level, that your life and future is going to be a lot better without alcohol in it.

Imagine just for a moment that you can see your new sober life as a picture on a wall in front of you. Imagine that this picture is a bit tatty and frayed at the edges. It’s stuck onto the wall with Sellotape that’s beginning to peel away in places. Some of the paint on the wall is also peeling away with the Sellotape. The corners of the picture are bending out away from the wall and one of them has folded over so much that it’s covering part of the picture.

The content of the picture is pretty miserable: it shows that every day is a struggle; it shows fear and anxiety; maybe it has the words “alcoholic” or “disease” represented in there somewhere; it depicts a life of loss and deprivation, of missing out at parties and social events; it illustrates a life of endless cravings and denial; and it tells the story of someone fighting through their urges one day at a time.

Even looking at this picture is hard work. You might be feeling reluctant to bring it to life. You might even want to run away from it.

Now, let’s imagine another picture on the wall in front of you. This one is in a beautiful frame that is a piece of art in itself. You want to reach out and touch the frame and feel its contours and texture. The picture has been lovingly and carefully set on the wall in a position where the light hits it just right. The colours and finish on this picture arrest your attention and make you want to gaze at it some more. There is craftsmanship and attention to detail shining out at you from every angle.

This picture paints a different story: it shows that there is an element of work, focus and commitment in the early days of stopping drinking but it also reveals a life of freedom; it represents a non-drinker living life to the full, enjoying every day they’re given; it illustrates all of the benefits from living life sober in colourful detail; it shows improved relationships, career prospects and social interactions; it reveals all of the healthy choices they’re making for their body, their mind and their life; and finally, it depicts someone comfortable in their own skin, confident with their place in the world and living their dreams, fully liberated from what was holding them back.

This picture holds your attention because it’s presented beautifully and tells an inviting and compelling story that you really do want to dive into.

The picture you paint for yourself of what it means to stop drinking is the picture you will bring to life.

You can paint the picture that best works for you and is more likely to lead to a successful outcome for you. You can keep adding more and more detail to make it more and more compelling. And, equally importantly, how you frame that picture is what makes it more or less inviting. When you pay special care and attention to the picture you’re painting and how you’re presenting it, you’re more likely to want to jump into it. You’re more likely to succeed and to enjoy and embrace the liberation your new sober life gives you.

For more information about how what you believe affects the reality you experience, check out my blog: The power of belief


14 Responses

Jo
Jo

August 25, 2019

Hi Christine, If you sign up for Free Bedtime Reading, you can receive information, updates and links to useful blogs from me. It’s a good way to stay in touch and find out more. Jo

Christine Elliott
Christine Elliott

August 25, 2019

Would like to know more

Jo
Jo

August 18, 2019

Hi Christine, I have emailed you, Jo

Jo
Jo

August 18, 2019

Hi Isobel, I have emailed you, Jo

Isobel
Isobel

August 18, 2019

I want to stop Drinking

christine
christine

August 18, 2019

Need help

Jo
Jo

July 30, 2019

Hi Theresa, sign up for Free Bedtime Reading or join one of my memberships – I can help you break an unhealthy drinking habit. Or, you can email me jo@gogetsober.com

Theresa
Theresa

July 30, 2019

I need support with my drinking

Jo
Jo

July 13, 2019

Hi Anna, If you haven’t already, sign up for the Free Bedtime Reading below and I’ll stay in with you and send you links to helpful blogs. Stopping drinking can be easier than you imagine with the right approach.

Anna Gallagher
Anna Gallagher

July 13, 2019

This all aeem3 “easy”- id live to go sober

Jo
Jo

June 29, 2019

Hi TJ, Thanks for getting in touch – if you sign up for free bedtime reading below, I’ll keep you updated with regular emails and links to blogs that you might find useful. Don’t worry too much about slipping up – pick yourself up, dust yourself down and get back on track. You’re learning a new skill here, just like if you were learning a musical instrument or a new language – learning to navigate life sober takes practice, commitment and sometimes we make mistakes. As long as we’re learning from those mistakes, reflecting on them and analysing them we can improve things next time that same trigger happens. Stay in touch and I’ll look forward to hearing from you. Jo

TJ
TJ

June 29, 2019

Looking extra help in AA had few slips

Jo
Jo

June 21, 2019

Hi Lyn, thanks for your comment. Although it seems like it might be too late, you can choose to stop or to carry on at any age. You can choose the future you want. Your brain will try and convince you of so many reasons why you need to carry on drinking and your age can be one of them. I don’t know if it’s better for you to stop or carry on – you’re the expert on you but I do know that there is always a choice.

Lyn dexter
Lyn dexter

June 21, 2019

I am 71 is it too late to stop

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